Escaping the Monster with Desiree Arias

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This episode contains discussions of domestic abuse and may be difficult for some listeners. Please take care while listening.

At just 15 years old, Desiree Arias had no idea that her first love would turn into a six-year nightmare. “I didn’t know anything about boys or love,” she says. “He was my first, and I fell hard and fast. His love was all-encompassing.” But even after fully immersing herself in his world, she didn’t see the darkness hiding inside him—until it was too late.

What started as passionate young love slowly turned into control, fear, and violence. His anger escalated. His tantrums became dangerous. And when he slapped her for the first time, Desiree realized the truth: she was in love with a monster.

In this courageous and deeply vulnerable conversation, Desiree opens up about the emotional and physical abuse she endured, the moment she knew she had to leave, and the long, painful journey toward healing and reclaiming her life.

This episode is a raw and important reminder that love should never hurt—and that no one is ever alone.

Desiree's book "The Monster in Him"

 

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, please know that you are not alone—and help is available.

Here are some confidential resources you can contact for support:

United States:
📞 National Domestic Violence Hotline — 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
📱 Text “START” to 88788
🌐 thehotline.org (24/7 live chat available)

Canada:
📞 ShelterSafe — Visit sheltersafe.ca to find a women’s shelter in your area
📞 Talk4Healing (for Indigenous women) — 1-855-554-HEAL (4325)

United Kingdom:
📞 National Domestic Abuse Helpline — 0808 2000 247
🌐 nationaldahelpline.org.uk

Australia:
📞 1800RESPECT — 1800 737 732
🌐 1800respect.org.au